The topic of service comes up often in AA because it is one of the foundations of recovery. The simple act of one person helping another accomplishes two things at once: it helps the person in need, and it helps the helper step outside of themselves. In that exchange, both people are changed.
But there is a subtle trap hidden within service. Doing something good for someone is not the same as promoting the fact that you did it. In many ways, the moment we seek recognition, applause, or validation, we diminish the purity of the act. Service is at its best when it comes from a sincere desire to help, not from a desire to be seen helping.
I know this because I have been guilty of it myself. I've done something kind and then felt the urge to share it, post it, or mention it so others would know. The ego is clever. It can turn even generosity into a transaction.
Some of the most beautiful acts of kindness happen without anyone ever knowing who performed them. A bill quietly paid. An encouraging word spoken at the right moment. A meal delivered. A prayer offered. No credit taken. No story told. Just love put into action.
Jesus spoke directly to this when He said, "Do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing." (Matthew 6:3)
Perhaps one of the best spiritual exercises is to do something good for someone and make sure you don't get caught. Let the reward be the act itself. Let God keep the score. In the end, the quiet kindnesses we give away may be the ones that change us the most.
