One of the ways I gauge whether I am living in God’s will is by examining my eagerness to be right.
When things don’t go my way, or I find myself in disagreement with someone, how much energy do I spend trying to prove my point? How much effort is devoted to controlling the outcome, defending my position, or winning an argument that ultimately doesn’t matter? Am I acting from humility, or am I serving my pride and ego?
I have learned to ask myself a simple question: Why is it so important that I be right?
Do I not trust God? Do I believe my happiness depends on the world conforming to my expectations? Have I somehow convinced myself that I am the exception, that life should bend to my preferences?
The need to be right is often a subtle form of self-will. It places me at the center and asks others—and sometimes even God—to agree with my version of how things should be. Yet peace is rarely found there. The more tightly I cling to being right, the more disconnected I become from the present moment, from other people, and from God.
There is a freedom in letting go. Not every misunderstanding needs correcting. Not every criticism requires a defense. Not every battle deserves a fight.
When I surrender my need to be right, I make room for something greater: humility, understanding, and trust. I can rest in the truth that God does not need me to win every argument. He simply asks me to walk with Him.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
— Proverbs 3:5-6
Sometimes the most faithful thing we can do is stop trying to be right and start trying to be at peace.
