Needing Others to Be Wrong

So much of my life has been an attempt to prove someone else wrong.

My ego feeds on it. My illusion of control depends on it.

I loved planting my flag in arguments no one can solve — politics, economics, social issues. Perfect arenas for declaring what’s right and wrong without carrying real responsibility.

Here’s my opinion. Here’s my outrage.

But if I’m honest, how much do I really know?

Very little.

Most of what hits my phone or TV is built for attention. Outrage is profitable. Conflict keeps me engaged. When I’m stirred up, I feel powerful, certain, right.

But I’m not more peaceful. I’m just louder.

Then a sobering thought arrived:

My time here is short.

One day the arguments will go on without me. The headlines will keep running, but I won’t be here to read them.

So why spend sacred minutes on problems I cannot fix? Why trade serenity for sound bites?

And here’s the humbling part:

NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR OPINION !!!!

I can shout it into the internet, but it changes almost nothing. I could probably get the same results talking to a wall — and the wall wouldn’t steal my peace in return.

Because the energy I pour into the unsolvable doesn’t just disappear.

It agitates me.
It hardens me.
It pulls me away from God.

I finally saw my need to win was costing me the life I was trying to protect.

So I turned the volume down — less news, less commentary, less grandstanding. Not because the world healed, but because I noticed I was neglecting the only place I truly have influence:

my own heart.

If I want a better world, I can start by becoming a better man. Trying to fix everyone else while ignoring myself is like sweeping my neighbor’s porch while my own house burns.

God keeps pointing me back to what’s in front of me: my family, my friends, my character. That’s today. That’s the assignment.

The rest may be interesting, but it isn’t mine to carry.

Putting energy into the unsolvable isn’t noble.

It’s a distraction.

The world doesn’t need my hot take.

It needs my transformation.

Scripture

“Why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” – Matthew 7:3

“Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” – Psalm 90:12

Prayer

Lord, my life is brief, yet I spend so much of it trying to be right about things that are not mine to fix. Forgive me for trading peace for outrage. Turn my attention toward the work You want to do in me. Teach me to number my days and invest them in love, growth, and Your presence. Make me a changed man, not just a loud one. Amen.